Ask Valentina [Part 1]
What's in your fridge?
Snow peas, broccoli, unsweetened yoghurt, blueberries, raspberries, avocadoes, tomatoes, kale and spinach mix, pudding, whipped cream, almond milk, cauliflower rice etc.
What do you wear on a normal work day?
Lingerie from overseas, usually a British or Indonesian brand. Typically black lace or mesh. I always wear a garter belt with thigh high stockings and black heels. After bookings, I wear a black satin robe that is incredibly short. If I bend over...it gives quite the view.
I've been fiending for this set from Honey Birdette. It's on my wishlist.
What DOES AN AVERAGE SESSION WITH A CLIENT INVOLVE?
It varies and is dependent upon what the client is looking for. I usually ask a client beforehand if they are looking for anything specific. If they tell me they like kissing, I tailor the session so they get a very full-on passionate GFE (Girl Friend Experience). We get to know each other a little more in-depth before we start escalating slowly, and then suddenly all at once. If they tell me they like multiple positions, the session is more lustful and raunchy than the average GFE. There are varying flourishes here and there which I usually like to keep under wraps. If you want a unique experience, be prepared to tell me your favourite sex act or position. I'm very creative when I have a foundation to work off of. I aim to please.
IS ANYTHING OFF LIMITS FOR YOU?
I have a very responsive body. Rough foreplay (biting my nipples, nipple twisting, rubbing nipples, any kind of fingering) hurts. My body loves being caressed, licked and suck softly. Less definitely is more. I also do not engage in any kind of anal activity.
What is the most important thing a person can do to improve themselves?
Take responsibility for their mistakes and not make any excuses.
What is the biggest misconception about your job?
Probably that I'm unsafe. Upon starting the industry, I was given a comprehensive sex ed talk by the New Zealand Prostitute's Collective. The staff member who taught me had 5 years of experience in the sex industry. Sex ed as an escort is more detailed. I know more about safe sex than you do.
Thankfully, I am protected by law and can declare myself as a sex worker to healthcare professionals. They take a blood sample, mouth swab and vaginal swabs. They test me for everything, unlike the rest of the population who are only tested for certain things upon request. I am vaccinated for both HPV and Hepatitis B. I undergo routine testing on the schedule they suggest for sex workers.
What is your #1 sex safe sex tip?
Hold the base of the condom when you pull out. It prevents it from falling off due to post-sex shrinkage.
What is something surprising about you?
My first ever (straight) threesome was with a mature escort. She was 58 and I was 21. I have since moved agencies but I miss her dearly. I love her lots and I hope she's doing well.
Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?
Conformity. It is natural that we conform to the norm, however, the norm is completely skewed. Nobody ever is as they say they are. Everybody has a story and the only way you know is if you know how to pull it out of them. Not many people have that skill. It's about creating a environment where people can be their natural selves without judgement or social repercussions. Social rejection is what keeps people conforming to the status quo. When you're with me, you can let the world melt away. The norm is whatever we make it and we can make it together.
What's an unknown positive of sex work?
I found my future career through my clients. I asked countless how they decided what they were going to study and asked them for recommendations on what would suit me the most based on my educational skillset and background. My clients tend to be professionals so I get to learn first hand through them about what their daily lives are like, how they got there and if they enjoy their job.
What's an unknown negative of sex work?
I work in an agency which is basically the same as a sorority house. Everybody needs a phone charger but only two people have them.
What do a lot of parents do that screws up their kid?
Telling a child they are "bad" because of a bad behaviour. There is a difference between telling a person as a whole they are bad and telling them they did something that is bad. One is a label and the other leaves room for improvement. Often I find when people grow up they believe themselves to be "bad" or a "failure" based on one short coming. I think this type of thinking creates an unstable self-image where one day they are "good" and another they are "bad". People are a summation of their thoughts and actions. There is always room for improvement. Know yourself before someone tells you who you are.
That's all for now! I'm off to get my nails done and hit the gym.